Man. It feels like Thanos has snapped his fingers as another one drops off my favourites and past opponent list.

Ut's always sad when a profile of a former opponent vanishes.

Not because of the number thing ... It's just that I've always enjoyed the company of the people I've wrestled. Both on and off the mats. The random chats. The banter messages or even just checking in with each other if either has been silent.

When they've gone. That's kind of it. Profile deleted. End of story. There's plenty of good reasons to go. Life changes and moves on. It's just saying goodbye to people suck.

I'm guessing they'll be back on one day. Sending them all the best thoughts till they come back.

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Last edited on 12/08/2018 12:17 AM by hephaestion2014
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Squashlad (256)

12/08/2018 10:05 AM

Yeah, it's a weird combination of feelings when someone deletes their profile. Mainly frustration at not getting to say goodbye.

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Spruceman (55 )

12/13/2018 2:55 PM

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I wonder if there would be fewer dropouts if we had a section on the site labeled "I'm Thinking of Dropping Out," in which such members could post their reason why and members could offer workarounds to that reason. Maybe a few words from a fellow member might be some very obvious solution, but one which the potential dropout simply had never thought of.

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surrey71 (22 )

12/08/2018 7:09 PM

And bearing in mind I now know who had left, it’s also a shame I won’t get another chance to kick his ass!

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toxic (13)

12/08/2018 8:58 PM

Well said... Thanks

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Spruceman (55 )

12/08/2018 10:59 PM

Often the only avenue of contact was the site; and it's gone. Sometimes, one might have a phone number; but then one wonders if the guy prefers not to be contacted about his site departure. Would be nice if the disappeared could be included in the opponent count, as the higher that number, the easier it is to find matches. Seems like every time I get around 60 or so, they start dropping like flies, and have to rebuild wondering if I'll ever get to 100+

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Ironbull (94)

12/10/2018 10:34 AM

I guess people need to be able to disappear back into the crowd, but it's a reminder that this site alone does not put ourselves in each others' lives; for that a much more personal commitment to friendship and availiablity is needed. Given that a fair number of us are here by some degree of stealth, away from families and loved ones, that doesn't help. Or perhaps fighting itself remains a fundamentally private effort to be shared in the ring but nurtured in solitude.

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Spruceman (55 )

12/10/2018 11:42 AM

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Sometimes it does make on think of giving it a dose of Fukital; but haven't come across a neater scene of physical activity mixed with playfulness. The big missing thing locally is getting together beyond the fighting such as going out to eat, or simply a small group getting together for an evening.

I do hear that does happen in some parts of the country; but if it happens locally, it might be a rather closed circle(s) and not publicized on the fight sites. Cherish to few who do venture beyond the mats/ring. However it seems many of the friendliest guys have very limited time and can't be very open, as wives, husbands, partners, co-workers, and others simply can't understand the unique needs of the folks in a site such as this.

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hephaestion2014 (51)

12/10/2018 7:28 PM

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Yep. I understand why people go. I guess as Squashlad said, sometimes it's the not saying goodbye thing. Or in fact it is the saying goodbye thing.

Always prefer a "till the next time" than a "goodbye" 😉 and deleting a profile is pretty final .

But you are right about the time and effort and how membership of the site isn't automatic comradeship.

I guess I don't always strike the balance. Some people I'd guess would find me too friendly.. others as too aloof.
Some don't even want to be friendly. That's all good. You just have to try and work out what the other person wants and adapt.

But there's a lot on here id consider friends, some friendly acquaintances, some as just good people I've spent some awesome time with. But there's a bond with most.

If you've ever shared a beer with me or a coffee or chatted about anything but wrestling with me - you're in the friend bracket. It's about if I've got to know a little bit about you as a person outside of wrestling. 😉

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Sparrhawk (9)

12/12/2018 11:09 PM

I know what you mean! The first guy I wrestled on here has deleted his account, and the recommendation he wrote for me went away too. In my area it's hard to get opponents so I took pride in my first recommendation. It's strange how when your opponents go, your "rating" can suffer too.

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Spruceman (55 )

12/12/2018 11:19 PM

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Reckon the real "heartbreak" is if a guy has really busted his gut to get into that 100-plus opponent group, has 100, 101, or 103 opponents, and one or more drops out and knocks him below 100.

The numbers really do count, especially if your demographics, appearance, or location are otherwise not working in your favor. The body count and recommendations would have to be higher than some stud in his twenties in a major metropolitan area.

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hugefan (86)

12/13/2018 12:38 PM

I do bleat occasionally about losing my 100 star because of drop outs but although that is irritating, knowing that you won't be able to meet someone again that you liked is worse. It might be that you wouldn't meet them again because of location or circumstances but it's nice to have the possibility to say hello.
I think we should encourage anyone of thinking of leaving to suspend their membership instead.

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hephaestion2014 (51)

12/13/2018 11:21 PM

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We will have to wrestle sometime to get you that 100 badge. I go through quiet periods but I don't see me leaving anytime soon 😉

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Squashlad (256)

12/13/2018 11:24 PM

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Well I should hope not! 🙋‍♂️

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